~It just seems that it's my fate to be the rebound girl. It's not like I do it willingly and most of the time I don't even know. By the time I find out, I already like the guy. ~
Recently I started talking to a new guy I met at school. We don't have any classes together, but I see him a lot around campus. I finally met him at a party and he actually gave me his number. (this is something that has never happened to me. Usually it's guys begging for my number, not being ballsy and actually giving it). So I texted him a few days later so he would have my number as well. He put a lot of effort into our texts. More than I've ever seen from a guy. He even started asking to see me again. So we met up a few times and it seemed fine. Then after "the talk" about past relationships, I found out that he just broke up with his last girlfriend a month ago.
Actually, they just stopped talking and never actually said "it's over." But, after a month, you kind of just assume.
That's what he said anyway.
So, I tried not to take it the wrong way since he was the one texting me more often and inviting me out. After about 2ish weeks of this, we kissed. It was pretty heated and after he walked me back to my dorm.
We still text daily, but I feel like his texts are getting shorter and less frequent. I know we both have been putting off our work for each other and he tells me he is working really hard to catch up. But, I still feel neglected. He tells me it would be nice if I came over, then when I offer to, he tells me he's too swamped with homework. I don't know if I'm doing something wrong or if he is just really busy.
All the time I'm wondering/fearing that he just wanted me to make him feel better and that now he's just slowly getting rid of me. My guy friends say that guys just don't talk as much as girls and I should just feel lucky that he responds at all because that means he's still interested. But, I have such a bad history with guys using me for a moment and then throwing me away. It's making me paranoid and I'm having trouble trusting/believing that anyone genuinely likes me. I have been trying more lately to be flirtatious and attentive so he knows I'm not uneasy after our kiss...........i don't know.
I just wish I DID know. Is it okay to let him know that I feel like he's avoiding me? Would that just push him away more? Could he really just be busy or not a big talker?
I'm one of those stupid girls right now who hopes her phone will ring.
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You should talk to him and get all your questions answered and tell him whatever you want, just so that the lines of communication are wide open. That's always important. :)